To Have and To Hold

By Tammy Trail

I find weddings a wonderful tradition. A chance for families to join and celebrate Tim and Tammy weddingtwo people starting a life together. With this months’ topic being weddings, I had the tendency to think of my own. Ours was a simple affair. I think our whole budget was a whopping $2000.00.

Two years later my cousin Christine was planning her wedding. She was a very fortunate girl. The whole family pitched in with her nuptials. One aunt made her cake. With help from the ladies of the church, her grandmother made all of the buffet food. I did all her flowers, and she found her dress for $100.00 at an estate sale.Christine's wedding 1

My daughter had grand ideas for her wedding. We were constantly reeling her back to reality to stay on budget. Even with all the reminders, there were last minute items like candles that needed to be purchased.Amanda's Picture

Wedding trends change from year to year. According to a few internet sites, this year’s bride will opt for bolder colors; gone are neutrals and pastels. Family style dinners serving comfort foods with no formal seating gives a more laid back atmosphere. The emphasis is having your guest enjoy the celebration.

I recently heard of an unusual event the bride performed for her guests. Instead of throwing her bouquet to a group of unmarried female guests, she gave each of them a single flower from her bouquet. Along with the flower, the bride prayed with each of the women, asking God’s guidance in finding a husband. I thought this was a lovely new tradition, and the bride was a very sweet woman to have been so bouquet

Here are some interesting facts about weddings:

Queen Victoria began the tradition of wearing white for her wedding. Before that time, women wore their Sunday best.

The bodice of Grace Kelly’s wedding dress was made from 125-year-old lace.

The marriage of Sheik Rashid Bin Saeed Al Maktoum’s son to Princess Salama in Dubai in 1981 was the most expensive. How much, you ask? A grand total of $44 million dollars.

Diamond ringPriscilla Presley’s engagement ring was a whopping 3.5 carat rock surrounded by a detachable row of smaller diamonds.

One of history’s earliest engagement rings was given to Princess Mary, daughter of Henry VIII. She was two years old at the time.

Weddings are a rite of passage. It’s a way to define a family’s course through time. First we celebrate birth, then baptisms, graduations, then finally a wedding. Children grow up, get married to make homes for themselves and begin to follow the same journey. It’s not an easy one. Those of us who have traveled the path must be available to mentor beginners. The trends, words spoken, and symbols may change. The purpose never will. Love must win, every time.

My husband and I are going to be empty-nesters next year. I have no idea what I will do with all my spare time. Maybe finish a novel or two. You might ask, “What will she write about?”  Romance, of course!

Do you have a funny moment you could share from your own wedding? I would love to hear about it!